“I’m not exactly Brad Pit“; “I’m too busy to have a girlfriend”; “I don’t get to meet many women”; “I’m too shy to ask for a date”; or “I don’t have that gift of chatting-up women”. An old Sales Manager said to me years ago, “if they come in the door, they already want it, so make sure they don’t leave ’til they get it”. Warning: This is not a ’get sex quick’ scheme, for that, I suggest you go elsewhere. Before we get into that, a quick check that you have the basics - these are not secrets! Have a shower (a proper one, with soap and everything). Over the years, I’ve found many excuses why it’s not happening. “”First, let’s take care of my excuses: the women you get to talk with, at the speed dating, are not exactly Angelina Jolie either, and they also have their own favourite excuses, why it’s not working for them. That’s why I have condensed my success into the 10 Secrets of Successful Speed Dating, below. Dress appropriately, smart, casual, CLEAN, trying to impress, but something you are comfortable with.
Exchange greetings, names and whatever banter comes naturally (if any! Then be quite for a few seconds - remember to breathe and smile - to keep you relaxed. remember silence can be golden, and sometimes even intimate.
If she leans toward you, naturally move in a little (I said a little, don’t bump heads), to acknowledge her invitation, and give positive confirmation, you are interested too. It can convey honesty, interest, and many other positive characteristics.
And, of course, it is ‘the window to the heart’ (and all that stuff! This is not a ‘stare-out’ (like in the school playground).
Remember, every boring truth you reveal about yourself, is one less exciting aspect of the imaginary you!
So, ‘shut-up’, and let her do the talking, unless she specifically asks. We are not known for that ’6th sense’ or even ’intuition’ (whatever they might be! Don’t worry, we are going to keep it to 2 simple steps.
This is eye-contact, best combined with a friendly smile and good listening.